A common denominator for the clients who come for coaching, is a great fear of making mistakes, mistakes or failure. This holds us back and limits us humans and much of the coaching is about changing and breaking through these limiting thoughts and behaviors, to get new results and changes.
The perception that making mistakes, mistakes and failure is bad means that you see this as an "enemy" that can harm you. But what if mistakes, mistakes and failures could instead be a friend or teacher?
What are mistakes and failures?
If you go through life afraid of getting hurt if you make a mistake, mistake or fail, it means you will hold yourself back and isolate yourself from many activities, meeting other people and generally not living up to your potential . You will probably feel bad because it affects your whole lifestyle and in the long run you may actually get sick.
The fear of making mistakes, mistakes or failing is based on a belief that making mistakes, mistakes and failing is bad and that it leads to you being punished ie you or someone else will hand out a punishment. The punishment can be both physical and psychological, i.e. everything from being beaten to being exposed to negative comments or abusive treatment. If you punish yourself, it is primarily condescending and demeaning thoughts about yourself that are punished.
It is worth mentioning that physical and mental pain are handled in the same part of the brain (Cingulate cortex), which means that we cannot distinguish the origin of the pain, but rather that it hurts!
Unfortunately, this leads to a negative spiral, a so-called conditioning or more simply explained, cautious behaviors because we don't want to experience or feel the pain that we experience and it makes us be more careful to avoid getting hurt.
An alternative strategy that we humans use to avoid feeling this pain is to shift the blame. It depends on others, childhood, bad luck, dating laws, etc. It can also lead to various addictions, where we want to suppress these inner pains.
In conclusion, we can say that the fear of making mistakes, mistakes and failures is actually what makes us really bad.
What can failures and mistakes teach us?
If instead of seeing errors, mistakes and failures as enemies, these can become friends or teachers that:
In summary, it means making mistakes, mistakes and failing is the basis of human evolution and development.
What can you do if you fail and do mistakes?
Ok, you have made a mistake, mistake or failure, then it's time to evolve by following the 5 steps below:
In conclusion, the difference between us humans and how successful we are, is the ability to actually learn from our mistakes, mistakes and failures.
Make failures and mistakes your friends!
If you want to succeed and be successful for real, you need to make lots of mistakes, mistakes and failure in order to learn and develop. If you can also combine that with learning from the mistakes, mistakes and failures of others, then you have unique keys to achieving your goals and being successful in whatever you want.
Don't be afraid to make mistakes, mistakes or fail, be much more afraid not to!!
Now you need to make a decision, do you want fear or development to win?
Good luck!
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Author:
Claes-Goran Hammar
Master coach & mentor
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